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> We all have the need to be touched. > [snipped for space]
touch me baby!!
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>The scar will give you character and be a handy subject of conversation to >help break the ice with all those women that will come your way. ‘-)
Chicks dig scars. – Dave W. http://psorsite.com/
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Mr. Perry, I just want to thank you for the very thoughtful responses you have posted here. I’m sure many people are reading this exchange who are too shy to respond as well. LadyAndy Chat live with me at http://ivillagehealth.com/community/aolusers/pages/1,12910,538426_539… 0.html (my chats are on Sun evenings at 10 ET) Joint Replacement Board at http://boards.ivillagehealth.com/messages/get/bhivhjointreplace1.html
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Well thank you Lady Andy. I am only trying to share what has worked for me and perhaps give some encouragement. I still say the Serenity Prayer every night just before I go to sleep. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Mr. Perry, I just want to thank you for the very thoughtful responses you have > posted here. I’m sure many people are reading this exchange who are too shy to > respond as well. > LadyAndy > Chat live with me at > http://ivillagehealth.com/community/aolusers/pages/1,12910,538426_539… > 0.html (my chats are on Sun evenings at 10 ET) > Joint Replacement Board at > http://boards.ivillagehealth.com/messages/get/bhivhjointreplace1.html
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> > > > I’m going to put in my 2 cents worth for what it’s worth. Hope I don’t start a flame war. > > > > Funny thing is we are as vain as the non-sufferers. We often want a clear skinned person. We look at > > > > ourselves and don’t like what we see…so how can we expect another to like it or even get used to > > > > it. Hell, I’m not used to it. I hate it. It’s great if you can find someone who truly sees beyond > > > > the disease, but those persons are far and few between. > > > I could not disagree more! > > > Apparently you only know very shallow people. > > I’m afraid you may be right. Where does one go to find non-shallow people? > Places where people congregate to do something other than drink and look for love in all the wrong places. Any > type of gathering where people of both sexes congregate and socialize that are not like the bar scene. Just a few > that come to mind: church, plays, I have heard that Laundromats are a good place, adult education classes. I’m > sure there are many more. I happened to meet my wife at a twelve step meeting. Since we were both there we already > knew we had at least one thing in common. > I know you’re only trying to help. And I appreciate that. The thing is I don’t drink or do drugs,
Good. You don’t need that problem or someone else that has it. You may have guessed the twelve step meeting that I met Laurie at was an AA meeting. We still go regularly. I have been sober for more than 23 years, she more than 22 years. Neither of us have ever seen the other take a drink and that’s the way we hope to keep it. > I go to church > regularly and volunteer for all sorts of things and I have taken a lot of courses. I’m fresh out of ideas. > >> > > Seems all the good ones are truly taken. > > > You can’t be that bitter, can you? > > It’s hard not to be bitter. I was very much covered. It was difficult to even find some friends let alone > > partners. I got kicked out of pools, > How and why could they do that? Were your lesions bleeding or weeping? > Nope, but 75% coverage is pretty ugly….and scary for kids.
What do your kids think of it? Are the embarrassed to have you meet their friends? I sincerely hope not. If I see someone staring at mine I try to use it as an opportunity to educate them at least a little about psoriasis. > > people would not shake my hand, > I have had that happen too. I asked a lady at a medical supply store that was trying to sell me something to help my > psoriasis to touch so she would know it is just ordinary skin that happens to be thick and crusty. She withdrew with > a horrified look on her face. This was after I had told her that it is not contagious in any way, and had > given her some other information about our disease. After she did that I told her that she needed to practice her > people skills and learn more about diseases like psoriasis or find another job. > Been there, done that. I’m tired of educating the public.
I try to keep it short and simple and to the point. I have considered getting a T-shirt with "IT’S PSORIASIS" and the web address of the NPF on it. > > been passed up for jobs which deal with > > the public…etc…. Yes I believe I am quite bitter. > I understand, but you do know that bitterness will eat you alive like a strong acid, don’t you? > It’s a catch 22 situation.
Yep. When you are down that far it is impossible to see any light at the end of the tunnel. I can’t encourage you enough to convince you the the situation will get better, even though I believe it will. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> > > > It > > > > humbles us to suffer through this disease. We can appreciate far more now what others take for > > > > granted. But we > > > > still want what they have. We don’t want to settle for any less. > > > Once again, I must disagree. My first wife had psoriasis and still does as do I. At that time neither of us > > > knew what it was. We just knew that we had similar scaly patches of skin and nothing seemed to clear it up > > and > we both were plagued by terrible cases of what we believed to be dandruff. Those conditions had nothing > > > whatever to do with the breakup of our marriage. > > Exactly my point. Would you have dated each other had you or she been 75% covered? I think not. Let’s be > honest here. > I cannot answer that question since it never happened. Have you checked out NPF to see if there are any support > groups within driving distance of where you live? > There used to be but not enough people were going so they stopped.
Have you talked to a psychologist about your problems? When I was very depressed my doctor put me on Prozac and I told him the only way I would take it was if I also got some counseling. That helped me more than the drugs. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> >> > > And yet we expect others to settle > > > > in our case. As for me, I have given up on finding that special someone (clear skinned or not). He’s > > > > just not out there. > > > I hate to sound like a therapist, but I must say that it appears that you need to learn to accept and love > > > yourself first. > > Oh, I have been on a journey of self-discovery, self-improvement, self-love, etc….for over 2 years now. I > > have changed dramatically from the suicidal, depressed individual I was then. I do love myself. I just can’t > > find anyone out there who will look beyond the 75% coverage long enough to find out I’m a good person. > Perhaps you should stop looking for a lover and try to become friends with people. Then let nature take its course. > Now this proves you’re not reading my posts. As I said, I have loads of friends. More than I can shake a stick at. > I am a great friend. And that’s all anybody wants of me is a friend. I’m tired of being everybody’s friend…I want > more…..I deserve more.
I read you post very well and I understand what you are saying. I was trying to make the point that if you act as if you are looking for a mate that alone will scare many men away. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> > > > I have had my beautiful skin days, got married, had 2 kids. Now I’m divorced > > > > (because my ex couldn’t deal with the skin) > > > If those were the only reasons he left then you are much better off without him. > > I agree with you on that one. But I could not know he was like that when we got married because I was a slender, > beautiful woman. Once the skin started to change, so did his feelings for me. That leaves a big whole in your > heart hon. > My second wife used to say to me, "You will tell me if I get too fat won’t you?" Talk about a loaded question. I > never told her that she was even when she went over 160 pounds and she was only 5′0" tall. I still found her > attractive until she became pregnant with another man’s child. > So you’re on wife # ????
Laurie is my third and last wife. We have been married since 2/14/81. My first one lasted 7 years. We married when we were kids. My second marriage lasted 12 years. > I hate to burst your bubble hon but maybe she went with another man because she found him > more physically attractive.
You could not be more wrong. He was obese, only 21 years old and not good looking at all. He was dumber than a box of rocks. She had, and continues to have, such low self esteem and emotional problems that she needed someone else to find her attractive. She thought I was drinking because I couldn’t stand to look at her which could not be further from the truth. After all she is the mother of five of our children and even though she had ballooned from 100 pounds when we were married to over 160 pounds I still found her physically attractive. I later found out she had been cheating on me for most of our marriage. By the way, the only place you could see any psoriasis on me when she and I were married was what appeared to be a terrible case of dandruff. Our kids have told me that she is still in love with me, but she threw all that away. > It’s why most of them do. They need a break from the ’skin’….. > > > > and I’m settling into middle-age (I’m 44- supposedly in my > > > > sexual prime) and trying to enjoy what’s rest of my ‘it sucks to be me’ life. > > > > That’s why they make such a wide variety of vibrators today. No, that is not a joke. > > I know. I am well acquainted with the cornecopia of ‘toys’ out there. Pretty much have to be. But comes a time > when you resent not being pretty enough to be touched by a man. I haven’t been touched by a man in 5 years. > Meanwhile, my ‘toys’ and I have become intimately acquainted. > Great! At least you aren’t too bashful or ashamed to keep that part of your mental health in good shape. We all > need to be touched and hugged every single day. > And your point is????
We all have the need to be touched. [snipped for space]
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->If you don’t like it the hair will certainly grow back. As a matter of fact I was >always told by barbers that my hair grows at about twice the normal rate. I have >often wondered if that is somehow connected to my psoriasis. > I joke with people all the time that my hair grows like a Chia pet. >
>When I grew my hair long my shirts and jackets constantly looked like I had been in a >blizzard of dandruff. > I too have the same problem, tried diff dandruff shampoos but no > effect yet. >When I first shaved my head it looked as if Mother Nature had put one of those Jewish >hats into my scalp. The up side is that it cleared very quickly. I do have to shave >my head at least two to three times per week. If I let it go for a whole week the P >starts to return. I also have it in my eyebrows which I refuse to shave. I cannot >grow a mustache or beard because P will bloom in those areas within a week’s time. > You seem to have it in exact same spots as me, I have it on my > eyebrows as well, although it doesn’t seem to flare up as bad there as > it did before. Only other thing I considered about shaving my head is > I have a large scar on top of my head that will be very visible.
The scar will give you character and be a handy subject of conversation to help break the ice with all those women that will come your way. ‘-) > One question for you – do you still have to treat your psoriasis as > often as you used to or has it cleared up completely?
Oh, I wish that I could say that it has, but alas I cannot. I still have it in the crease on the back of my head, around and inside both ears, in my eyebrows, my left cheek, the jaw line just under my chin, the crease between my nose and my cheek, both elbows, small one on my chest, my navel, small ones on the front of both thighs, four of them on my back, my buttocks just around the tailbone area, my right knee, my right chin, my left ankle up onto the leg and inverse psoriasis in both creases between my groin and thighs and in the crease over the tailbone. This time of year since the days get shorter my lesions get larger. Right now the dermatologist has me using Tazorac 0.1% and Olux Foam on alternating days except for my face and the inverse p places I mentioned. I use Desowen and Polysporin on those. Taking antibiotic right now to fight off any secondary infection in the inverse areas and behind the ears. They were all cracked open, weeping and bleeding. That is usually a pretty good indication of a secondary infection. I take a Clariton every night to relief the terrible itching on my knee and calf so I can sleep. Isn’t psoriasis fun? Compared to what my diabetes could do to me the psoriasis is a cake walk. OTOH having the P gone on my scalp except for the crease is such a relief after those many years of every dandruff remedy imaginable with none of them working. I actually had more than one barber tell me that if I would only shampoo more often it would all clear up. I had a couple others tell me not to shampoo too often. Shows how much they knew. LOL Actually my psoriasis is much milder than many other people have, but when you are itching and scratching you really don’t care about that. My sister, who is four years older than me, also has psoriatic arthritis with hers. My doctor isn’t sure if mine is connected to my P or just degenerative arthritis from all the abuse I gave my body for so many years when I was an arborist (fancy word for professional tree trimmer and tree surgeon).
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>If you don’t like it the hair will certainly grow back. As a matter of fact I was >always told by barbers that my hair grows at about twice the normal rate. I have >often wondered if that is somehow connected to my psoriasis.
I joke with people all the time that my hair grows like a Chia pet.
>When I grew my hair long my shirts and jackets constantly looked like I had been in a >blizzard of dandruff.
I too have the same problem, tried diff dandruff shampoos but no effect yet. >When I first shaved my head it looked as if Mother Nature had put one of those Jewish >hats into my scalp. The up side is that it cleared very quickly. I do have to shave >my head at least two to three times per week. If I let it go for a whole week the P >starts to return. I also have it in my eyebrows which I refuse to shave. I cannot >grow a mustache or beard because P will bloom in those areas within a week’s time.
You seem to have it in exact same spots as me, I have it on my eyebrows as well, although it doesn’t seem to flare up as bad there as it did before. Only other thing I considered about shaving my head is I have a large scar on top of my head that will be very visible. One question for you – do you still have to treat your psoriasis as often as you used to or has it cleared up completely?
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> > > I’m going to put in my 2 cents worth for what it’s worth. Hope I don’t start a flame war. > > > Funny thing is we are as vain as the non-sufferers. We often want a clear skinned person. We look at > > > ourselves and don’t like what we see…so how can we expect another to like it or even get used to > > > it. Hell, I’m not used to it. I hate it. It’s great if you can find someone who truly sees beyond > > > the disease, but those persons are far and few between. > > I could not disagree more! > > Apparently you only know very shallow people. > I’m afraid you may be right. Where does one go to find non-shallow people? > Places where people congregate to do something other than drink and look for love in all the wrong places. Any > type of gathering where people of both sexes congregate and socialize that are not like the bar scene. Just a few > that come to mind: church, plays, I have heard that Laundromats are a good place, adult education classes. I’m > sure there are many more. I happened to meet my wife at a twelve step meeting. Since we were both there we already > knew we had at least one thing in common.
I know you’re only trying to help. And I appreciate that. The thing is I don’t drink or do drugs, I go to church regularly and volunteer for all sorts of things and I have taken a lot of courses. I’m fresh out of ideas. >> > > Seems all the good ones are truly taken. > > You can’t be that bitter, can you? > It’s hard not to be bitter. I was very much covered. It was difficult to even find some friends let alone > partners. I got kicked out of pools, > How and why could they do that? Were your lesions bleeding or weeping?
Nope, but 75% coverage is pretty ugly….and scary for kids. > people would not shake my hand, > I have had that happen too. I asked a lady at a medical supply store that was trying to sell me something to help my > psoriasis to touch so she would know it is just ordinary skin that happens to be thick and crusty. She withdrew with > a horrified look on her face. This was after I had told her that it is not contagious in any way, and had > given her some other information about our disease. After she did that I told her that she needed to practice her > people skills and learn more about diseases like psoriasis or find another job.
Been there, done that. I’m tired of educating the public. > been passed up for jobs which deal with > the public…etc…. Yes I believe I am quite bitter. > I understand, but you do know that bitterness will eat you alive like a strong acid, don’t you?
It’s a catch 22 situation. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> > > It > > > humbles us to suffer through this disease. We can appreciate far more now what others take for > > > granted. But we > > > still want what they have. We don’t want to settle for any less. > > Once again, I must disagree. My first wife had psoriasis and still does as do I. At that time neither of us > > > knew what it was. We just knew that we had similar scaly patches of skin and nothing seemed to clear it up > > and > we both were plagued by terrible cases of what we believed to be dandruff. Those conditions had nothing > > whatever to do with the breakup of our marriage. > Exactly my point. Would you have dated each other had you or she been 75% covered? I think not. Let’s be > honest here. > I cannot answer that question since it never happened. Have you checked out NPF to see if there are any support > groups within driving distance of where you live?
There used to be but not enough people were going so they stopped. >> > > And yet we expect others to settle > > > in our case. As for me, I have given up on finding that special someone (clear skinned or not). He’s > > > just not out there. > > I hate to sound like a therapist, but I must say that it appears that you need to learn to accept and love > > yourself first. > Oh, I have been on a journey of self-discovery, self-improvement, self-love, etc….for over 2 years now. I > have changed dramatically from the suicidal, depressed individual I was then. I do love myself. I just can’t > find anyone out there who will look beyond the 75% coverage long enough to find out I’m a good person. > Perhaps you should stop looking for a lover and try to become friends with people. Then let nature take its course.
Now this proves you’re not reading my posts. As I said, I have loads of friends. More than I can shake a stick at. I am a great friend. And that’s all anybody wants of me is a friend. I’m tired of being everybody’s friend…I want more…..I deserve more. > > > I have had my beautiful skin days, got married, had 2 kids. Now I’m divorced > > > (because my ex couldn’t deal with the skin) > > If those were the only reasons he left then you are much better off without him. > I agree with you on that one. But I could not know he was like that when we got married because I was a slender, > beautiful woman. Once the skin started to change, so did his feelings for me. That leaves a big whole in your > heart hon. > My second wife used to say to me, "You will tell me if I get too fat won’t you?" Talk about a loaded question. I > never told her that she was even when she went over 160 pounds and she was only 5′0" tall. I still found her > attractive until she became pregnant with another man’s child.
So you’re on wife # ???? I hate to burst your bubble hon but maybe she went with another man because she found him more physically attractive. It’s why most of them do. They need a break from the ’skin’….. > > > and I’m settling into middle-age (I’m 44- supposedly in my > > > sexual prime) and trying to enjoy what’s rest of my ‘it sucks to be me’ life. > > > That’s why they make such a wide variety of vibrators today. No, that is not a joke. > I know. I am well acquainted with the cornecopia of ‘toys’ out there. Pretty much have to be. But comes a time > when you resent not being pretty enough to be touched by a man. I haven’t been touched by a man in 5 years. > Meanwhile, my ‘toys’ and I have become intimately acquainted. > Great! At least you aren’t too bashful or ashamed to keep that part of your mental health in good shape. We all > need to be touched and hugged every single day.
And your point is???? – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> > > I’m now taking Neoral (cyclosporine) and it is working quite well. But even if I clear 100%, I will not get > serious with anyone without first showing him my ‘before’ pictures (and man are they bad) and letting him know that > it could and may well happen again. > > That sounds reasonable if you wait until you know the person and talk to them first so they know what to expect. > > > I refuse to invest myself emotionally in a relationship where my partner does an > > > about face because he can’t deal with it. And believe me, there are more guys out there who will do > an > about face that there are who won’t. > > No, I do not believe you for even one nanosecond. Where are you meeting these clods? > What planet are you living on? Even the guys on this newgroup are looking for clear skinned women. That’s just > the point….I have stopped looking because I have been put off so many times. Rejection is not one of my strong > points. If you know someone send him over hon. > As I said above perhaps it is time to stop looking for a lover and just try to be friends with people. That is what > I did. There are not easy answers — damn it I wish there were.
And as I said above, I have more friends than any one person needs. I need a lover…. a mate…. a partner….. And yes, I have given up (as I also said above)….. and that has not worked either. So, that’s the way the cookie crumbles. This is a superficial world we live in. And I am going to have to get used to that fact and get over it. Someone out there could have a really wonderful mate in me but they will never know because they are too superficial. Their loss. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> > > That’s my story and I’m sticking to it baby. For what it’s > > > worth…. > > What it is worth from where I sit is a case of self loathing that needs to be addressed before anything > > constructive can be done. It sounds as if you are very depressed. Many of us have dealt with that at one > > time or another. Discuss your feelings with your doctor. Ask him/her if you might benefit from an > > antidepressant. > Just because I loathe my p. doesn’t mean I loathe myself. I am a beautiful person. And I love who I have > become. Everyone wants to be my friend. I am a great friend. But no one wants to be my lover. BTW, I have > been on anti-depressants since my divorce in 1997. Realism is often confused with depression. > It may happen when you least expect it. That is what happened to me. As long as I was seeking another mate I > didn’t meet anyone except "ladies" that wanted a romp in my bed and nothing more. Not what I was looking for. > > Believe me when I say there was a time when I felt much the same as you do now. Once I learned to be > > comfortable in my own skin and by myself a beautiful woman came into my life. All I was looking for at that > > time was friendship. We now have been married for nearly twenty-two years. She has seen my psoriasis at its > > worst and when it was almost completely cleared. Her love for me did not change with the lesions on > > my skin. > Like I said, all the good ones seem to be taken. I am glad for you. You are the exception and not the rule. > You think so? Perhaps. I don’t think I am that unique. > > I wish you love of yourself and the best of
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> > > I’m going to put in my 2 cents worth for what it’s worth. Hope I don’t start a flame war. > > Funny thing is we are as vain as the non-sufferers. We often want a clear skinned person. We look at > > ourselves and don’t like what we see…so how can we expect another to like it or even get used to > > it. Hell, I’m not used to it. I hate it. It’s great if you can find someone who truly sees beyond > > the disease, but those persons are far and few between. > I could not disagree more! > Apparently you only know very shallow people. > I’m afraid you may be right. Where does one go to find non-shallow people?
Places where people congregate to do something other than drink and look for love in all the wrong places. Any type of gathering where people of both sexes congregate and socialize that are not like the bar scene. Just a few that come to mind: church, plays, I have heard that Laundromats are a good place, adult education classes. I’m sure there are many more. I happened to meet my wife at a twelve step meeting. Since we were both there we already knew we had at least one thing in common. > > Seems all the good ones are truly taken. > You can’t be that bitter, can you? > It’s hard not to be bitter. I was very much covered. It was difficult to even find some friends let alone > partners. I got kicked out of pools,
How and why could they do that? Were your lesions bleeding or weeping? > people would not shake my hand,
I have had that happen too. I asked a lady at a medical supply store that was trying to sell me something to help my psoriasis to touch so she would know it is just ordinary skin that happens to be thick and crusty. She withdrew with a horrified look on her face. This was after I had told her that it is not contagious in any way, and had given her some other information about our disease. After she did that I told her that she needed to practice her people skills and learn more about diseases like psoriasis or find another job. > been passed up for jobs which deal with > the public…etc…. Yes I believe I am quite bitter.
I understand, but you do know that bitterness will eat you alive like a strong acid, don’t you? – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> > It > > humbles us to suffer through this disease. We can appreciate far more now what others take for > > granted. But we > > still want what they have. We don’t want to settle for any less. > Once again, I must disagree. My first wife had psoriasis and still does as do I. At that time neither of us > knew what it was. We just knew that we had similar scaly patches of skin and nothing seemed to clear it up > and we both were plagued by terrible cases of what we believed to be dandruff. Those conditions had nothing > whatever to do with the breakup of our marriage. > Exactly my point. Would you have dated each other had you or she been 75% covered? I think not. Let’s be > honest here.
I cannot answer that question since it never happened. Have you checked out NPF to see if there are any support groups within driving distance of where you live? > > And yet we expect others to settle > > in our case. As for me, I have given up on finding that special someone (clear skinned or not). He’s > > just not out there. > I hate to sound like a therapist, but I must say that it appears that you need to learn to accept and love > yourself first. > Oh, I have been on a journey of self-discovery, self-improvement, self-love, etc….for over 2 years now. I > have changed dramatically from the suicidal, depressed individual I was then. I do love myself. I just can’t > find anyone out there who will look beyond the 75% coverage long enough to find out I’m a good person.
Perhaps you should stop looking for a lover and try to become friends with people. Then let nature take its course. > > I have had my beautiful skin days, got married, had 2 kids. Now I’m divorced > > (because my ex couldn’t deal with the skin) > If those were the only reasons he left then you are much better off without him. > I agree with you on that one. But I could not know he was like that when we got married because I was a > slender, beautiful woman. Once the skin started to change, so did his feelings for me. That leaves a big > whole in your heart hon.
My second wife used to say to me, "You will tell me if I get too fat won’t you?" Talk about a loaded question. I never told her that she was even when she went over 160 pounds and she was only 5′0" tall. I still found her attractive until she became pregnant with another man’s child. > > and I’m settling into middle-age (I’m 44- supposedly in my > > sexual prime) and trying to enjoy what’s rest of my ‘it sucks to be me’ life. > That’s why they make such a wide variety of vibrators today. No, that is not a joke. > I know. I am well acquainted with the cornecopia of ‘toys’ out there. Pretty much have to be. But comes a > time when you resent not being pretty enough to be touched by a man. I haven’t been touched by a man in 5 > years. Meanwhile, my ‘toys’ and I have become intimately acquainted.
Great! At least you aren’t too bashful or ashamed to keep that part of your mental health in good shape. We all need to be touched and hugged every single day. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> > I’m now taking Neoral > > (cyclosporine) and > > it is working quite well. But even if I clear 100%, I will not get serious with anyone without first > > showing him my ‘before’ pictures (and man are they bad) and letting him know that it could and may > > well happen again. > That sounds reasonable if you wait until you know the person and talk to them first so they know what to > expect. > > I refuse to invest myself emotionally in a relationship where my partner does an > > about face because he can’t deal with it. And believe me, there are more guys out there who will do > an > about face that there are who won’t. > No, I do not believe you for even one nanosecond. Where are you meeting these clods? > What planet are you living on? Even the guys on this newgroup are looking for clear skinned women. That’s > just the point….I have stopped looking because I have been put off so many times. Rejection is not one of > my strong points. If you know someone send him over hon.
As I said above perhaps it is time to stop looking for a lover and just try to be friends with people. That is what I did. There are not easy answers — damn it I wish there were. > > That’s my story and I’m sticking to it baby. For what it’s > > worth…. > What it is worth from where I sit is a case of self loathing that needs to be addressed before anything > constructive can be done. It sounds as if you are very depressed. Many of us have dealt with that at one > time or another. Discuss your feelings with your doctor. Ask him/her if you might benefit from an > antidepressant. > Just because I loathe my p. doesn’t mean I loathe myself. I am a beautiful person. And I love who I have > become. Everyone wants to be my friend. I am a great friend. But no one wants to be my lover. BTW, I have > been on anti-depressants since my divorce in 1997. Realism is often confused with depression.
It may happen when you least expect it. That is what happened to me. As long as I was seeking another mate I didn’t meet anyone except "ladies" that wanted a romp in my bed and nothing more. Not what I was looking for. > Believe me when I say there was a time when I felt much the same as you do now. Once I learned to be > comfortable in my own skin and by myself a beautiful woman came into my life. All I was looking for at that > time was friendship. We now have been married for nearly twenty-two years. She has seen my psoriasis at its > worst and when it was almost completely cleared. Her love for me did not change with the lesions on > my skin. > Like I said, all the good ones seem to be taken. I am glad for you. You are the exception and not the rule.
You think so? Perhaps. I don’t think I am that unique. > I wish you love of yourself and the best of luck. > Chuck > Living with psoriasis for more than 62 years. > I do love myself Chuck. It’s someone else’s love I need….not my own. Thanks.
Give what you want to get. Damn! Almost everything I have written to you sounds like a bunch of clich